Black Women Matter

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Black Women Matter

For those of you who may not know, my name is Arnetta. I am a woman and I am black. I am a black woman and I am very proud of it! According to the late great Malcolm X, the black woman is most disrespected, under protected person in America.

Before I get into how black women are disrespected, underappreciated, mistreated, and not protected in the world today; I have to go all the way back to slavery. The reason why I have to go all the way back to slavery is because that is where it started.

Slave owners, which were all white men, here in America; would rape and abuse black woman. They would separate the black women from their children but have them raise their children, meaning the owners children. They were beaten, whipped, and treated like dogs for the simplest mistakes.The mistreating, disrespect and non protection of black women started with slavery. Not much has changed since then. 

However, in the world we live in today, the disrespect is coming from our own community as well.

With all the things going on in America and around the world. I can see now why Malcolm X said what he said that. I imagine I have always known but now my eyes are really open!

Years ago when Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna, the black community was the first community to forgive him. Robert (R) Kelly has assaulted, allegedly kidnapped, and preyed on tons of young black girls and women. Mostly everyone that is defending him are people from the black community. Saying he’s done nothing wrong and what about Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, etc. 

What do they mean he’s done nothing wrong? I guess preying on young black girls and women is nothing. I guess holding young black girls against their will is nothing.  Marrying a fifteen year old black girl is nothing. 

Sandra Bland, Lanekia Michelle Brown, Kindra Chapman, and Janice Dotson-Stephens are all African American women that died in jail cells within the last few years. So called explanations have been given but very little details and I’m not sure if investigations are still ongoing. Of course this bothers me because I’m a black woman.

This isn’t the same, but when rapper Offset cheated on Cardi B, other rappers, entrepreneurs like Sean Combs were saying she needed to forgive him and take him back.  I doubt if it was the other way around they would’ve said for him to forgive her. 

I’m here to say this,  BLACK WOMEN MATTER! If we can’t get our own community to stand up for us, who will? They won’t us to forgive cheating, being abused, battered, mistreated,  and so many other things. Meanwhile, the way we are treated is overlooked. Yet, we are the most educated group of women in America. We show up to vote for things that matter. We stand up for the ones we love.  Somehow we are treated the worst.

We live in a sad world and its time for things to change! Black women need to be treated better. All women need to be treated better. We need to feel like we matter and be treated better and respected. Have our people, our men stand up for us.

Black women need to be protected in sexual assault and sexual abuse cases and not the predator. We need to be protected period! Thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful blessed day and always be kind! Follow me on Instagram @Lashaunlee36

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17 thoughts on “Black Women Matter

    1. Yes we have to respect ourselves first! Which for the majority I think we do. We still needed to be treated better. Black women and women in general. We are the backbone of this country! Thank you for reading and commenting πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸŒΉ


  1. All of this is true. I also notice that the white culture made fun of black women big butts and lips yet the white women got butt and lip injections. It will surprise me if any white people respond to this or black men because they do not like to hear the truth. Or if they do they will find a way to blame the black woman. Great article.

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    1. People definitely don’t like to hear the truth but this is called Life with Lane, lol! So it’s about my life and what I go through so. Thank you very much Tash. Jim read it first and he loves it so we’ll see! πŸ’•πŸ’•


  2. I so wish that everything you said in this article was not true, BUT, it is ALL RIGHT ON. It makes me sad and sick inside. It disgusts me to know that hate and racism and sexism are still alive in this country and even seem to be be thriving in this crazy political climate. I hope that by being a living example for others and to my daughter we can really alter the course that we humans are on.


    1. Thank you very very much for reading and commenting. We live in such a sad world and its easy to be angry and upset but I remain positive. But I’m a realist and i have to be honest about what’s going on. I love your comment. The best thing parents can do is be a positive person and role model for their children. My Mom was. She never once spoke a bad word about my father although he was awful. Thanks again πŸŒΉπŸŒ»πŸ’•


  3. There’s so much to unpack from this blog. As the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad stated “A Nation rise no higher than its woman”, so we must be willing to protect our by any means. Sad to say that everyone is not on the same page, but there are communities of black men whom respect & protect black woman.


    1. Thank you! I know there are black men and men of other color that respect and protect black women. I know you and I know Jim! But the list continues. Its really hard being a woman especially a black woman. I don’t think people realize that and that’s the sad part!


  4. I grew up with a very strong father and have uncles, brothers and a husband who make me (and my daughters) feel safe and protected every day. My personal experiences as a black woman in this country and abroad have been very positive. I can’t even count the times men of all races and ethnicities have acted as mentors, recommended me for jobs/promotions, stopped to change a tire for me, or offered to help in some other small way. BUT I do understand that this issue is SO much bigger than me (and my personal experiences). It is a societal problem that I am glad you are addressing in a way that feels so open, honest and brave!


    1. I had the exact opposite growing up 😒 My father was abusive to my Mother. As were some of my male cousins to their wives. I didn’t have many positive male role models, not any really. I did have my Mother though πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ’•πŸ’• and she never once talked bad about my Dad although he was awful. Because of her, prayer, and eventually my stepdad i turned out pretty good! But my experience and alot of women i know as black women and women in general the world hasn’t been kind to us. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and commenting. Your Dad sounds like the real deal. A true blessing. He did an amazing as I can see you’re an amazing human!!


  5. I’m sorry to hear about your male experiences growing up but I love the relationship you have with your mom! My dad was an amazing man!! Thank you! And I think your mom raised an amazing human too! Keep up the thoughtful and heartfelt posts! ❀️ your blog!


  6. Unfortunately that is so true I have 4 sisters and I look at all women should be respected You should send this to Tyler Perry who knows And I don’t know if you remember I try to get you a job one time and the idiot didn’t want a heri you because you know why That does sicken me when people react That way


    1. Yes I remember. Are you saying those people didn’t hire me because I’m black? If so, wow that is indeed racists and ridiculous. But oh well. Maybe their store will go out of business from a thing called karma! Thank you for reading and commenting 😁


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